The Secret Life of an Escort
date_range 24 Oct 2019
The Secret Life of an Escort
Beyond what is revealed to you online or what you find on an escort’s profile, do you know what life is for an escort outside the sex industry? I know to some, fulfilling your part of the arrangement while they fulfill theirs’ is what they care about. Most people think the escort industry is meant for people who are totally helpless and one way or the other has to survive by all means which to me is a reflection of the wrong perception. For this misconception to be erased, there is a need to evaluate the experience of escorts and who else can do that for you if not us. Below are the results of an interview we had with a veteran (somewhat retired) escort:
How much money did you make?
This changes day today, the most I made over a weekend was close to AU$10,000. There was no much sex involved, it was more company and client’s self-exploration.
What did you use your cash for?
I have three properties. After paying my primary bills, the rest goes towards traveling and paying off my properties or helping my family. I don't party, drink or go clubbing.
What was your education level?
University degree. I studied psychology because it was a passion at the time and because I was a natural psychologist. I put my studies on hold when I realized I was using my knowledge to impact the sex industry. I completed my studies later anyways.
Do you consider yourself to be intelligent?
The truth is, I am a huge nerd and I am sure you know what that means. My last IQ test was 121. Although, it is not something I place much importance on because so many sex workers I know are very smart women studying law, biology, veterinarian degrees, to name a few. Some joined the industry to generate enough capital to launch their own business or just as sex workers running their business. Thus, if you think we are not that bright, you really to think again.
Did you have any other options in life?
Yes, so many options at that but being an escort was top of the list. I could continue my study and become a registered psychologist and all that but never did because I was fulfilling a purpose, unlike the way most people see the industry. I have a strong resume and can apply for a job anytime I want.
Why did you choose to be an escort?
It is quite simple. I had a goal of changing lives and reducing the number of suicidal death that has occurred due to loneliness. Thankfully, it has decreased and I have all sex workers around the world to thank.
What types of clients did you have?
Look around you and you will see them. To be more specific, I had more businessmen that did not have the time to go to bars and mingle and wanted a temporary companionship. Some were single and others married.
What were the "transactions" like?
I am sure to the general public; transaction meaning sex is wrong! Sex is dependent on the clients’ decisions. Personally, I normally have sex once if that, but it's not a rule. A lot of clientele like talking while we relax tend to be the greater part of my booking. I also execute cross-dressing, light BDSM, fantasy, and roleplay on an additional pay basis.
Was being an escort fulfilling, if so, how?
When a career you choose influences people positively, I believe it is right to tag such a profession as ‘successful’ Every day, I see my client grow and become more confident. I love the fact that I can give them a non-judgemental space to be themselves and explore that person. I love sex and the freedom of travel. Besides, I was able to provide for my family. Thus ‘fulfilling’ to me sounds like an understatement. Plus the money always helped.
Would you have done it again?
Yes! Operating in the sex industry comes with its own price and sacrifice. Interestingly, I wouldn't change a thing even if I could. The experience it instilled in me helped me grow and believe it or not, I would not be here if it was not for these experiences.
What was your childhood like?
I had a normal childhood. My mum and dad always supported me in any of my endeavors same as my brother and sister. We went on a family vacation each year to somewhere a few hours out of town. When I finally came out to my family about being an escort I will admit they were a little disappointed but they slowly came around to this fact. Now that I have a few property investments they are a lot more open to this being a career than just the stigma attached to it.
NOTE: My childhood had nothing to do with opting for sex work. Neither did it turn me into a salesperson, a public servant or any other job I have done. I choose my experiences and am no one's victim. Thus, you should never disrespect an escort’s choice or break their trust by using their past against them.
What was your socio-economic status?
I was born into a happily married family, I would say we were middle class. But right now, I will say I am upper middle class. Although many categorize me among the upper class, I am more of a businesswoman, Less concerned with evaluating people’s thoughts on me and more interested in my lifestyle and being successful.